by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Feb 17, 2020 | Couples Counseling, General
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard people give the advice to “follow your heart” when plummeting into new relationships or deciding to continue in difficult ones. I’m not going to lie, as a therapist, I really despise this advice. It is innocent enough and...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Jan 12, 2020 | Couples Counseling, General
I’ll be honest, since a teen I can remember “just wanting a boyfriend” and in my twenties “just wanting a husband.” Let me tell you ladies, this is not the attitude to have when seeking a life partner. This attitude gets you exactly what you don’t want. This...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Jan 9, 2020 | Couples Counseling, General
Some people are shocked to find that I have couples come in to see me for couple’s therapy who have been married for 30 plus years. “Why would they have problems now?” You see, because of my training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, it is of no surprise that this...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Jan 6, 2020 | Couples Counseling, General
Sex. This is a topic that will surely get some attention. As social beings we both need and desire human connection. Despite what some may believe, we all have a draw toward relating with others in meaningful ways. Granted, how we connect may differ based on...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Dec 30, 2019 | Couples Counseling, General
What relationship doesn’t have problems? For some reason, it is common belief that “good” relationships experience little or no conflict. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Dr. John Gottman, renowned relationship expert who has studied couples for over 30...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Dec 21, 2019 | General
Holidays. Who doesn’t experience the added stress with the hustle and bustle of the holiday season. Busy with activities, busy with shopping, and overwhelmed with too much to do and too little time to get it done. It is overwhelming. The holiday season, although a...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Oct 3, 2019 | Couples Counseling, General
“Do I stay or do I go?” This is a common question among one or both partners that have never been in a satisfying relationship with their significant other, or in a relationship that has faded over time. The decision to seek marital therapy or to seek a...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Sep 17, 2019 | Couples Counseling, Perinatal Postpartum Counseling
The transition to parenthood can bring about many changes in a couple’s life. Even the strongest relationships are strained during this time. An estimated two-thirds of couples entering parenthood, will experience a decrease in relationship satisfaction and an...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Jul 25, 2019 | Couples Counseling
When to Seek Relationship Help Making the decision to seek relationship help can be wrought with fear, insecurities, and even embarrassment. It’s difficult for most people to ask for help, but it can be even more complicated when the struggle is with personal and...
by Nicole M. Melchi, MEd. MFT, LPCC-S | Jul 19, 2019 | General
Say that again? DE-STRESS your vacation? That’s right, vacations, although intended to help us relax and take a break from the daily grind, often create a significant amount of stress. This is especially true when it comes to creating stress around our relationship...
