by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Mar 20, 2020 | General
We are all in unchartered waters. What can make the difference in your time spent in our new but temporary normal is your attitude. How you feel during this time will be dependent upon whether you swim with the current or against it. Reality. There is not much we...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Mar 9, 2020 | Couples Counseling, General
When I sat down to write this blog, I had planned to write it in reference to both sexes. The more I thought of how often this topic impacts my female clients, and as I assessed the potential reasons, I felt that females needed to be addressed exclusively. In my...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Mar 3, 2020 | Couples Counseling, General
I have several clients who seek therapy due to relationship struggles, despite not currently being involved in an actual relationship. Many of these clients have been in and out of unhealthy or unsatisfying relationships and struggle to understand why they are...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Feb 19, 2020 | Couples Counseling, General
Most people are aware of how to detect physical or verbal abuse, however emotional abuse in relationships is not as easily detected. Emotional abuse can be very covert or hidden. Often, this type of abuse involves manipulation which can be difficult to identify,...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Feb 17, 2020 | Couples Counseling, General
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard people give the advice to “follow your heart” when plummeting into new relationships or deciding to continue in difficult ones. I’m not going to lie, as a therapist, I really despise this advice. It is innocent enough and...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Jan 12, 2020 | Couples Counseling, General
I’ll be honest, since a teen I can remember “just wanting a boyfriend” and in my twenties “just wanting a husband.” Let me tell you ladies, this is not the attitude to have when seeking a life partner. This attitude gets you exactly what you don’t want. This...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Jan 9, 2020 | Couples Counseling, General
Some people are shocked to find that I have couples come in to see me for couple’s therapy who have been married for 30 plus years. “Why would they have problems now?” You see, because of my training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, it is of no surprise that this...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Jan 6, 2020 | Couples Counseling, General
Sex. This is a topic that will surely get some attention. As social beings we both need and desire human connection. Despite what some may believe, we all have a draw toward relating with others in meaningful ways. Granted, how we connect may differ based on...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Dec 30, 2019 | Couples Counseling, General
What relationship doesn’t have problems? For some reason, it is common belief that “good” relationships experience little or no conflict. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Dr. John Gottman, renowned relationship expert who has studied couples for over 30...
by Nicole Melchi MEd.MFT.LPCC-S. | Dec 21, 2019 | General
Holidays. Who doesn’t experience the added stress with the hustle and bustle of the holiday season. Busy with activities, busy with shopping, and overwhelmed with too much to do and too little time to get it done. It is overwhelming. The holiday season, although a...
